How to Pull Chicks from Nightclubs

This isn’t something you discuss in polite company (or any company, really); it’s uncouth; it’s rude; it’s a dirty little societal secret that nobody wants to talk about. Have some class, don’t be crass; clubs are for fun, not for ass.

But, since this site isn’t “polite company”, and you are reading in the privacy of your own home, I will enclose herein the Totally Devastating Method of Consistently Pulling Hot Ass from Nightclubs.

From Zero to Hero
The first thing you need to understand about nightclub game is that it takes some time.

A lot of guys don’t want to hear this; they want a quick fix, a “magic pill” they can implement THIS WEEKEND. If any of those guys are reading, sorry to disappoint, buckos, but: pulling from clubs regularly and well is an art unto itself, and like any art, you have to put in the time necessary to study the skills. Proficiency comes before mastery.

Here is a list of the four fundamental things you need to do in order to really build the foundation for really solid nightclub game:

(1) Become comfortable in clubs. This may sound like a “duh” suggestion but it’s amazing how many guys I still see walk into big clubs and look around all googly-eyed, obviously trying to figure out who the coolest people are, just like high school. Are you cool? Are they cool? Is that cool group looking here? Do they think we’re cool? Let me adjust my clothes a little, that will make me cooler. Uh oh, did that hot girl just look at me? Holy shit, it’s ON!

Just like in war, in order to be a successful seducer, you must know your environment and the terrain, and be comfortable in it; making the inside of nightclubs familiar to you past the point that they impress you is the first step in gaining the comfort and confidence needed to successfully pull from nightclubs.

In order to gain this comfort and knowledge, you must go out. You should visit every single nightclub in your city or area at least once, in the interest of determining which one(s) you like best. It may take a few visits to determine which one has the vibe you like, the girls you like, good drink prices and food, or whatever else you might like in a club.

As you’re “shopping” for nightclubs, come early and leave late. Stay until after last call when they switch the lights on; get a good look at the inside of the club when the house lights come up, to diminish the intimidation factor. Get a feel for the music and different energy curves the clubs produce throughout the night; when the crowd dances, when people go to get drinks, when people go pee en mass. Make observations and mental notes. Ignore the girls for the first few weeks.

(2) Pick your favorite club. It may not always be the biggest, or the most well-known, or the trendiest. Be wary of the “trendy” places; many times they are simply the ones currently attracting the most rich pretentious assholes, and what is “most trendy” changes every few weeks/months anyway….and in the weeks and months after a place’s star has fallen, it is simply filled with the Johhny-come-lately’s and wannabes. Don’t follow the trendwhores; make your own trend by picking a cool place and sticking with it.

(3) Build a reputation. The concept of “rep” may seem silly or highschool to you, but believe me, it makes every bit of difference in your game, and is the absolute linchpin of your nightclub game. My suggestions for building rep follow:

i. Make your visits to your favorite club, picked in #2, habitual and almost ritualistic. Go every Friday or Saturday night (both if you can afford it).

ii. On your second or third visit, as you are making the choice to establish this club as your “home base”, try to meet all the staff. Learn all their names. Make an effort to meet the Manager(s) and Assistant Managers. Smile and greet them by name whenever you see them; with a handshake if you can manage it.

iii. Treat every employee, ESPECIALLY bar and wait staff, exceedingly well. Tip generously but not ostentatiously; use their first names, and do say “Please” and “Thank you”. Chat with them during down-time (arrive early in the night for this). (For an overview of good tipping etiquette, see this Wikihow article, which gets it mostly right). Compliment bar staff on their drinks (but don’t be obsequious about it).

iv. Avoid trouble like the plague. Don’t get outrageously drunk, don’t puke in their bathrooms, don’t start fights, don’t make them cut you off or throw you out. You may not have the money to be a “big spender” reserving the VIP room and getting bottle service 3x a week, but you can still make an impression as a “favorite” customer with consistent, generous tipping and great “guest” behavior.

v. Learn the club’s dress code (if present) and follow it scrupulously. Don’t make the door guy turn you away because you’re not up to snuff; it’s no more pleasant for him than it is for you (the majority of people who are turned away for dress code violations don’t take it too well; a good percentage even try to start shit (although this is variably depending on what kind of club it is and where in the country you are)).

vi. Speaking of the front door, always have your ID out and ready and a smile and friendly greeting for the front door guy. Don’t complain about the wait or hassle him in any way. Observe the line in front of you on busy nights; if you see transaction taking place (”tips” i.e. bribes that allow people to cut in line or waive the dress code), don’t raise a stink or complain, just watch carefully how the transaction took place and, if you have the cash, consider greasing the doorman’s palm yourself.

If you follow these rules conscientiously for 3-6 weeks, you will have built a solid reputation in your club of choice as a “regular”. We will see the crucial importance of “regular” status as a stepping stone to a much tighter nightclub game in a few paragraphs.

(4) Bring your friends in. Once you have established your rep (or during the process), starting bringing your friends and social circle to the club (if they don’t already accompany you). If you are out meeting people anywhere else, invite them to the club. Make it an open invitation, let them know it’s your usual “watering hole” and they should come party with you sometime. The more people you are seen bringing into the club, the more favorably the club will see you (since in nightclubs, more bodies = more money). This will both help your rep in the club’s eyes and in your friends eyes, who will start seeing you as a fun, social guy who is always partying.

(5) Get the technical aspects of your game in order. Most of these are covered in other articles on this site; the absolute bare-minimum basics I would say you need to have handled are your opening and chat-up skills (see lines, as well as approach philosophy and approach anxiety), your conversational skills (including vocal projection and vibing, at a minimum), techniques for dealing with other competitive males, and a theoretical understanding of social forces and underlying male-female attraction concepts as they pertain to nightclubs (including social pressure, shit tests, backwards rationalization, and rapport).

If you follow these recommendations closely and consistently, within a period of probably 2-4 months you will find that they start bearing fruit, including:

• Overall comfort being in nightclubs
• Free drinks and/or appetizers from the bar staff
• Comped cover on occasions
• Front door staff looking the other way if you break the dress code

These are all great ancillary benefits, but the real goal you’re shooting for with all this good behavior and rep-establishing is that crown jewel of club kids, the ultimate prize, VIP status.

The VIP Phenomenon
To be a VIP is to be a Very Important Person; it is a status above “regular”, and typically very well-behaved, fun, polite “regulars” are on the straight-and-narrow path to becoming a VIP.

If the goal of attending nightclubs is to pull hot ass, then the attainment of VIP status is probably the single most important milestone in the achievement of that goal.

VIPs get all sorts of perks, including regular free cover, free drinks all night long (or at least comped bottles of champagne and appetizers, which actually cost the club next to nothing) and special access to the “private” or “secure” part of the club — the “VIP room” or area.

Just about every self-respecting club has a VIP room/area. It’s just another way to separate the high-status people from everybody else — and an opportunity to charge extra for drinks in and access to the VIP. In the largest and most elaborate clubs, the VIP area will have its own bar.

VIP areas range in size from just some dingy corner of the place that has been roped off in order to be “exclusive” to full-on rooms with couches, tables, private entrances and bathrooms, and dedicated cocktail staff and security. Typically, the bigger the club, the more extensive the VIP amenities will be.

The only set rule of a VIP area is that it is usually elevated in some way — again, it’s a status thing. The amount of elevation can be from a few inches to a room with a glass floor.

In a lot of places, VIP access is invite-only. I.E., if you befriend the bouncers, bartenders and manager, they will eventually say, “Hey, here’s a wristband good for VIP” (or a card, or whatever they use). If the club is big enough, frequently you can also purchase or reserve exclusive access — but if it’s a full room and a large enough club, expect to pay upwards of $100 for a single night, which is why it is so much better to earn VIP status by being a loyal model customer.

VIP status is really the crowning achievement of putting in your time and energy to establish a good “rep”; and in the next section, we’ll talk about why this is, and how you can leverage the VIP Advantage to the ultimate goal of pulling chicks.

The VIP Advantage
Women are intensely social creatures; and as discussed extensively in my last article on the topic, nightclubs are a social microcosm.

So what is the VIP Advantage? Social status. It lies in being treated deferentially by the higher-social bar staff; it lies in the implications of social proof that come with that treatment; and it lies in your ability to give the women in the club a unique experience.

Being able to say to a woman in a club, “Hey, I’m enjoying this conversation. You should come join us in VIP” says a number of great things about you: it says you are socially skilled enough to be invited to become a VIP member yourself. Or, it says that you are wealthy enough to buy out VIP (or one of your friends is); but regardless of how you got it, it says, quite plainly, that you were able to create for yourself the reality of being a Very Important Person. And we have established already that women love very important people.

But the VIP Advantage, and everything that it takes to earn it, actually goes far beyond the hat trick of being able to say “Hey, let’s go chill in the VIP room” and watch their eyes pop in happiness (women, being so status-aware, love that stratification and in-group/out-group stuff); it goes as far as being a crucial part of a much larger story that you can lead a woman through.

The VIP Advantage as Seduction Choreography
Women in general in life — and especially during seduction — want to have the feeling of being lead into and through new world by a more powerful and capable person, who incidentally has command of the strange and exciting new realm.

If you don’t believe me, read some romance novels, or watch some chick flicks that include a blossoming romance, or, hell, even Disney movies show this theme. When Aladdin seduced Jasmine he introduced her cloistered royal ass into “A Whole New World”, not only the created fantasy made possible by the Genie, but also the gritty street-life he lead.

Obviously, you don’t have a Genie to help you create this fantasy world; so you must create it yourself, using your money, social contacts, and social skills. Your ability to master the microcosm of the nightclub environment and bend it to your will is a demonstration of high value; it shows the woman you are able to manipulate material and social resources with equal aplomb.

Obviously, the more social and material resources you can muster to help craft this brave new world, the more seductive it will ultimately be, and the more totally she will surrender to its power (and yours). Being surrounded by attractive female pivots; other attractive men who recognize you as their leader; being on a first-name basis with all the club staff; moving to and from the club in a pack or posse, riding in the most luxurious car available to the group (or having the funds to hire a limo); allowing her to drink for free in your VIP area (at no real expense to you, in fact); having other complex and dramatic interactions going on that she can sit, observe, and wish to be a part of, that in fact distract you from her and make her see that your interactions are much more important and high-level than just “pulling ass”; and seeing your high-status, cool friends defer to you in matters of judgment, all this will coordinate to make her feel lucky to be included in your social circle and life.

This is the advanced choreography of seduction, writ small in a relatively controlled nightclub setting. The limits of the environment make it easier for you to, with a medium time investment, control more and more of the environmental elements and cues, and direct them to the task of adding value to your person.

Given all the examples above, do you really think there is a chance a girl will refuse to accompany you and your prestigious party back to your hotel room (or dwelling) for more partying, drinking, and eventual wild rumpus?

She might demur at first, but the reality is, she’s jumping at the chance: you are essentially creating a chance for her to be sucked into an alternate reality, a wonderful fantasy-land filled with intriguing characters, mysterious alliances, dramatic plot lines and social and material comfort.

There is no way she can logically refuse.

Debunking Popular Misconceptions and the Logical Extension of this Method
So there you have it: although it’s not filled out with exacting detail, the above method is more or less guaranteed to pull hot ass from nightclubs. Some guys may complain, given that it requires a number of things most guys starting out don’t have, such as high status in a given club, a wide circle of interesting and attractive high-status friends, refined social skills, etc.

But that’s not the point: the point is, in working towards the goal of having all these components in line, you’ll probably get laid once or twice by accident on the way, as well as being able to pull hot ass consistently once you have them all in place.

(As an aside, it’s possible to “fake” a number of the elements suggested here; for instance, knowing someone who works for a limo service or airport long-term parking lot, to secure a low-cost high-value vehicle, or having five friends pool 20 dollar bills to create a “flash cash” stash that one guy can use casually, to outright lying about your friends’ accomplishments (chalk it up to alcohol and joking over-exaggeration in a totally fake environment anyway), but the author believes the best results will come from genuine attainment of everything mentioned here).

If the ultimate overall goal for a given guy is to be able to pull ass from a club in jeans and a T-shirt, then he’s got to be that much tighter on the essential components listed above (vocal projection, conversational and vibing ability, social skills and calibration, etc). The above method is designed to pave the easiest possible path for guys who are looking to get laid, practically by osmosis.

The jeans-and-T-shirt path requires an uphill battle against people’s expectations and social pressure; for all that, it may be the preferred choice for some guys (but not most).

The most reliable way to pull ass is not, as most guys seem to think, to buy girls for drinks all night long or encourage them to drink, in hopes of eroding their judgment; or to stick close to them and spit game non-stop (although that can and does work); but to instead move the girl herself into an environment that is largely controlled by you.

The logical extension of this method, then, is that all seduction proceeds in such a direction; in becoming ever more attracted to you, the girl in question is gradually leaving her own world or the large, shared world, and entering your world and your reality.

Once a woman has entered your world, she has no choice but to comply; she is swept along, a prisoner of her own desire, submissive and immanent, and above all, she is a woman, and nothing makes her feel it so much as being seduced.

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