How To Get A Girlfriend

I worked with two clients recently who both asked me to summarize how it is that I help guys with this age-old question: how to get a girlfriend.

I realized this was such a clear request that I handled in my ebook, but still thought it might be useful to briefly cover this in an article, so that guys who haven’t yet purchased “How To Get A Girlfriend” can have a clearer idea of what we’re all about here at CEIC.

It is rather an audacious claim – to say that we understand how to help YOU get a girlfriend. But, via tons of research, loads of interviews, massive trial and error, and a solid education at the school of hard knocks, I do believe we’ve found an answer…

Seduction is a huge catch word out there for guys – the image of you seducing women left and right is dangled in front of your nose ten times a day if you surf the web without your brain turned on. Listen, seduction is fine and dandy, if you know how to meet women, and are looking for the RIGHT kinds of women into a relationship.

I am not a fan of using seduction as a trick to get laid… or as a way of manipulating women into thinking you like them when you don’t…and I learned about that the hard way… Enough said.

For most guys who suffer from a lack of success with women, what they really want is more options, better options, and ultimately, a girlfriend.

Dating is tough because most people give themselves to the laws of chance when seeking a mate. Finding a lasting relationship is hugely important to most people, so why should this be left to chance??

My belief is that a guy who is not meeting enough women, or the right women, is simply not living in the right way.

If you want to meet MORE women, do you put yourself into circumstances where you can interact with them?

If you want to meet the RIGHT women, do you do things which naturally bring you into contact with people who share commonalities with you?

Mastering the above two questions is crucial to your dating success. If you aren’t meeting enough women, and you want to get a girlfriend, you’d better find natural ways to socialize MORE. Join some clubs or take some classes. Get on email lists for events that interest you. Go to a party. Throw a party. Invite people out after work. This is the first step.

You then need to focus on meeting more of the right kinds of women – which only happens as we gain more and more clarity on what it is that we like to do/don’t like to do and start doing it more and more. If you are really pursuing aims in this world, which means taking lots of action, you will naturally be more and more in community with like-minded people. Also, don’t go places where you don’t want to go, just to meet women. What you need to do is to meet more people, in environments that interest you. The BEST way to meet women is along the way to doing something else.

Knowing skills like flirting, complimenting, storytelling, teasing, engaging conversations etc. are critical if you want to streamline and maximize your success in the dating world…being evolved socially means learning through experience how to relate to others. Having an expert like me allows you to massively speed up the process, while helping you also to round out your social acumen.

But, ultimately, LIFE-skills are what is attractive to women. Men who lead meaningful lives are the men who end up with meaningful relationships. How a man lives, is how a man loves…so, when a woman peers behind the looking glass and sees what is REALLY going on in your world – that will tell her how you will love her as well. Life and women are very similar.

The main life skill that we advocate, and teach guys to pursue is:

Autonomy.

Being autonomous means being SECURE. Security is what women biologically/intuitively seek from men. Being secure means that you are balanced and leading a healthy lifestyle. There are a number of areas that I ask men to be accountable in – and when I work with you, we go through a series of exercises within each area to fully focus you and pinpoint areas of development.

An autonomous lifestyle + impeccable social skills = real CHOICE in dating and relationships.

This combination gives you power without sneaky, manipulative gimmicks. It also gives you the label “man” rather than “PUA”. I have met very few guys who want to be pick-up artists…but I have met plenty who feel that that is their best option. That is simply not the truth.

Having a balanced, healthy lifestyle allows you to lead your own lives without needing to “sarge”, and naturally places you in front of the women that are right for you. No more target practice, if you wish.

The CEIC work is designed to get each man at his maximum best, and to speed up the process to autonomy and empowerment. Being able to be at your social best, while growing a community of ever-broadening social contact, is the best way to finding a girlfriend.

That’s the short version of How To Get A Girlfriend.

The longer, more complete version, is here.

Stephen Nash