Chocolate, Cocaine and you - A Lesson From Age-Old Pickup Masters on the Value of Making Women Feel Good

Chocolate is ugly. It is brown and formless. It melts and stains your hands and clothes and furniture. It gets on your face. It makes you fat. It isn?t healthy.

But?it makes women feel good. So women go crazy for chocolate. Because they want to feel good.

Cocaine is a messy, unattractive powder that is consumed in a way that is totally ungraceful and unattractive (think razor blades and rolled up bills, hunched over a table obsessing over lines). While chocolate often has attractive packaging, cocaine's presentation could not be worse, dirty baggies that have passed through layers of grimy hands in the worst neighborhoods. Further, cocaine is a massive immunosuppressant, as well as having the potential for causing instant heart failure and death. Yet in spite of all this, some very hot women will seek it out and will do anything to have it?for one reason only: it makes them feel good.

I have some friends that complain that you can't get the interest of a hot girl around LA (where I live), without having coke. And while this may be true of some girls, I think it?s interesting to note why. They don?t want coke because it's pretty or makes them look feminine. They want it because it makes them feel good. So rather than complain and project a negative vibe, my friends should really take a Juggler workshop and learn how to relate to women in a way that makes them feel amazing.

Note that if you can make a woman feel amazingly good (as cocaine does), she may risk her money, her job, her family, her friends, just to be around you. That?s the power of making people feel amazingly good. (I, for one, want to use this power for to enhance people?s lives, rather than to entice them down a destructive path.)

Now, by relating to others in the right way, we can make them feel incredibly good?and further, as humans, we have actually far more to offer a girl than does an immunosuppressive, expensive white powder. We can connect to her deepest passions in a way that processed coca simply cannot.

Many people spend too much effort on trying to packaging themselves well (with appearance and status symbols), and put no effort into creating a good vibe and learning how to powerfully relate to others. While packaging is nice, and can help draw someone in, what we can learn from chocolate and cocaine is that fine packaging isn?t necessary. What is fundamentally necessary is making people *feel* good.

And, when you make someone feel really good, she?ll return the favor to you, and try to make you feel good. Then it goes back and forth: you find yourselves competing to one-up each other with good feelings until the sun is rising, and you have to track down and sort through each other?s clothes.

I used to go out with a good package, but I was lacking in ability to make people feel good, or even comfortable. I was lost in my head, out of touch with other people, nervous, and too fast and timid in my speech and movements. People might be drawn in by my packaging, but then quickly would run fast from my needy, insecure energy. Rather than wielding the power of chocolate, on my best day I was but a nice-looking package of jelly beans. Bertie Bott's Every Flavor Beans, to be exact: moderately tasty, but with occasional flavors of Booger, Vomit, Dirt, Soap, Rotten Egg, and Earthworm. Even still, I sometimes get the expression on a girl's face that calls me out as having just given her a soap flavored jelly bean rather than a genuinely good vibe. But thankfully I get this a lot less than I used to.

Lately, I?ve been focusing more on putting out a good vibe: a strong, confident, open (slooow), warm, genuinely positive vibe. It?s amazing how other people pick it up instantly, just like a strongly vibrating tuning fork will set off other nearby tuning forks. Plus, I find that I can practice this good vibe any time, such as when ordering a burrito at Baja Fresh. Then, I like to employ the vacuum, to pull the other person in?people get much more into interactions that they are actively involved in. And after all, I?m interacting with other people for my enjoyment, not just to make them feel good. It's a two-way interaction, and I like to put myself on the receiving end as quickly as possible.

My biggest inspiration in all of this is seeing Johnny, the supa-pimp, doing a "smile opener." We were outside a club, and he walked up to a group of girls with his signature JohnnySmile and warm presence. That instantly set the vibe of good feelings all-around. Then he just stood there, creating a powerful vacuum that the girls immediately filled with warm, friendly greetings and conversation. Simple and powerful: he walked up and smiled. He didn?t have to say a thing.

Since then, I may have done similar things myself once or twice, so I know that other people can do it, too, and it isn't that Johnny, the supa-pimp, is actually an anthropomorphic coca plant-though that point might still be debatable.

By Don Diego de la Vega