LTRs

Last night a Charisma Arts alumni called me to tell me about his trip upstate to visit a bandmate. "But I didn't even do anything and she was all over me!" he exclaimed to me over the phone. I loved hearing this because it meant that he had internalized all the stuff he learned from his bootcamp. Back in August when he took his bootcamp he listed, among other things, that he wanted to improve ...

After my nine year marriage ended in 1992, I was determined to find out what I had done wrong. Why did my marriage fail? I read every book about relationships that there was. I went to a counselor. I talked to hundreds of recently divorced women. I dated a number of them. Some of them I got along with wonderfully, some not so. And then I dated a woman who I got along with incredibly ...

The Short Answer: very gently. I can’t even count how many girls I’ve broken up with over the course of my life, and the biggest lesson I’ve learned is the following: Big Breakup Lesson #1: Angry hateful breakups are never worth it. Despite this, for a lot of women, “hard” breakups are actually easier to deal with — outright rejections where you tell them it was all an act, ...

Ahh, monogamy. That most elusive and much-desired state that comes so naturally to some parts of the animal kingdom and is so reprehensible to others. How to guarantee the loyalty of your mate? How to tame a woman’s fickle fancies? Men have been asking themselves (and each other) those very questions down through the ages; with no definitive results. It’s clear enough that what ought to work logically - namely, freely pledging your own ...

It’s the Eve of Christmas Eve, so I’m going to take a few minutes with my eggnog and hazelnut liqueur to address a common misconception about relationships. A couple of my guy friends have recently been asking me odd relationship questions, like, “thirtyplus, why does my girlfriend have so many guy friends? What does she do when she hangs out with her guy friends?” and in one case, “Why is my girlfriend cuddling ...

When I was younger, I loved open relationships. People call them “no strings attached” relationships, “fuck buddies” or “friends with benefits”, but whatever name they go by, for most men they are hard to pass up — there is something intensely satisfying about being able to ring up a girl at 11PM, be having sex with her at 11:30, and then be saying goodbye to her by 2:30AM. Of course, as I got ...

Most women have very distinct patterns that they go through in relationships. For instance, if things are going south with their current boyfriend, they have a couple of options: some girls start going out more frequently in order to meet more boys that could potentially “replace” their current b/f: others just change their body language and vibe to become more “open” to the guys that are already flocking around them (true for more high-status, ...

This is a cool little game for spicing up your long-term or fuck-buddy relationships. Here is how: Both you and your girlfriend have to get 20 pieces of paper and make 20 different cards. Each card has an idea on it: you write down things you would like her to do and she does the same with stuff she wants you to do. There are three kinds of cards: sex, romance and adventure. ...

You know the scenario. You start dating a woman. After the first date, all you get is a peck on the cheek.Second date, you get a mouth kiss. Third date, you hold hands. It's a very slow process.You can't understand why it has to take so long to have sex with the woman. After all, you're buying her meals. You even splurged on some pretty flowers.In short… you're being incredibly nice ...