Inner Game

Today I’m going to share a dirty little secret that all attractive men know, but few will admit to. No one starts out totally comfortable talking to strangers. But in order to become an attractive men and get the women you want, it’s something you have to get used to. Now there are a lot more Secrets of the Naturals for you to know, and you can ...

Assuming attraction is less about self talk and affirmations and more about an internal state. The question is this - if you are consciously telling yourself something, do you really feel as if it's true? Do you really feel it? Correct me if i'm wrong, but I'd guess the answer is most likely no, and the old theory that if you do enough affirmations it becomes true isn't valid. ...

So, you've decided to change yourself for the better. You've read countless dating advice books, and you've tried numerous techniques and "magic bullets" to become more successful with women. Now, upon meeting a girl, you carefully watch her reactions to every word you say. You calibrate your "game" to how she behaves, and every muscle of your body homes in on seducing that girl. My friend, this is BULLSHIT - in ...

Hey guys, Just wanna share my way of doing things. This is the same part of the lecture i give out in my weekend bootcamps and i certainly hope everyone who reads this can gain a thing or two because its helped student after student with their AA and Inner game issues. I just want to give back to the place for being an excellent resource and a place of good camaraderie in ...

Personal Interview What if someone wanted to know who you really are? What would they ask you and what would you tell them? These questions are not easy to answer. You have to have a strong lock on who you are, and have to make some decisions about where you are at and where you want to go. These questions will cause you to have to think a LOT about your life; that is ...

This has always been the core of my PU skills. I’ve always ranted about THINKING BEYOND THE MEDIUM. Unfortunately not too many people understand what I mean when I say “think beyond the medium”. This post is a pretty good example of what I mean. Anyways let’s roll! One example is body language. I’m sure everybody here has read TD’s post about the 25 points. It’s a great post. Unfortunately I ...

I wrote about this some time ago, and I have reposted the article below. But on Sunday I was talking with a friend of mine, and I realized that the phrase “Nice Guys Finish Last” is accurate, but misunderstood. What does it mean to be “nice” in this case? Normally, this is referring to wimpy, passive/aggressive, aimless guys who are at the mercy of life and who have to subtly manipulate women to get them ...

I had a recent email from an NYC guy named AJ with an interesting question about identity building. There is a lot of talk and writing about identity in the pick-up community, most of which is based in the �game� mentality. Since I am no longer at all interested in anything based in game, I thought it might be helpful to write a bit about what identity means from the standpoint of a guy seeking ...

Coming from someone who used to use routines ad nauseum, the statement I am about to make may seem preposterous, but I will make it anyway: You don’t need routines to attract women…. In fact, I could spruce that up a bit and add a bit of menace for flavor: You don’t need routines to attract women…in fact, if you use them, you might repel women who would otherwise be interested, and you will actively ...

A friend of mine asked me "how do you know when you make it? Is there a point where it all comes together?" Fair questions. A lot of the time, when I was still all over the place, I had a head full of tactics and ideas, I had no centre to it, no point of reference. It was as if there was so much information it paralyzed me. And sometimes I'd ...