Guide to Being "Playful" With Women

This is my "toolbox" of banter techniques used to create short term attraction. If attraction were a cake, this would be the icing on top, while genuine rapport is the actual cake itself. Let’s face reality guys, cake without icing is BORING but icing with no cake is way over-the-top. So sprinkle some icing on your cake already!

When it comes to bantering and being playful, do it with EVERYONE. Don’t save it for just the hot chick at the bar. You must integrate this playful style into your personality. It won’t happen overnight mind you, but consciously work on bringing an element of fun to all your interactions and eventually it will be as natural to you as reciting your ABCs.

Positive Energy (Happiness)

This is the most important of all the attraction tools I use. It’s not even so much a technique, as a mindset, but I believe it to be of the utmost importance when generating attraction. As a general rule, be 15% or 20% above her energy level.

Make sure you're in a positive, upbeat mood. Not just around hot women, but around EVERYONE. Happiness is ADDICTIVE. When I'm with a women, I focus on having a great time first and foremost. I make sure I'm having a blast because I know that if I'm having a great time, so will she, by association.

FUN FUN FUN!
ADVENTURE ADVENTURE ADVENTURE!

Role Playing

I love to role play. It's fun! Role playing is simply putting the women in a role she can play along with.

"Alright, that’s it; you're my new personal chef babe! We're going to cook a huge pizza at my place. Like A fucking HUGE pizza. Then we're going to have an eating competition and wolf it down with some coke and throw the rest of it at poor passers by while we drive down King Street in a fucking HUMMER. Yeah, it's a date!"

The more ridiculous the better. Make them SUPER ridiculous.

"Okay, I'm your new dance instructor and you're my student. I'm going to teach you how to dance." *grab hand, lead to dance floor*

Nicknames

This is a cute one. I always try to come up with a cute nickname for a girl. The girl I was with last night is "pokadots". I met her at a kegger a month ago. She called me "pin stripes" because I had a pin stripe polo on so I looked her up and down and called her pokadots. She had a pokadot shirt on. :)

I also use their first initial to come up with something.

"Melissa? Muffin! You're muffin from now on. Come on lets go dance muffin!" :) *Grab hand. Lead to dance floor*

The more personal and unique to the girl the nickname is, the better. However, here are some other generic nicknames I use:

Dork
Goober
Muffin head
Nerd
Dweeb

Reverse Statement of Intent (SOI)

This is where you reverse sexual intent roles. Basically pretend she is hitting on you hardcore.

"So when are you taking me our for dinner pokadots? You know, I'm pretty high maintenance. I expect you to take me to all the best restaurants, and buy me ALL the best food... in a limo of course. :)"

"What kind of guy do you think I am? I'm not just going to take you home and give you mind numbing orgasms and non-stop adventure for nothing you know. You have to buy me at least a few drinks first! :)"

Being Over-The-Top

I love being dramatic when interacting with women. If she hits me, I’ll put a shocked look on my face and say “OUCH!” really loud then give her a playful shove. Playfully overreact to things that happen during your interaction.

It’s very easy to tie this in with some of the other attraction tools listed above. You can easily tie this in with a Reverse SOI: “Stop touching my ass!”

Poking Fun at Mild Insecurities

This technique is absolute gold when done correctly. It’s important to realize that you cannot pick something she is genuinely insecure about. If the women you’re pocking fun at is a little overweight, don’t call her chubby whatever you do! The goal here is not to insult, but to demonstrate you’re a confident, playful guy who likes to have fun.

You can poke fun at her shoes, hair, a funky outfit she has on. The possibilities are literally endless. As long as you come across as non-insulting, you’re safe. I see a lot of guys mess up on this one, by coming across as insulting. You should do this with a big smile on your face that shows you are only being playful.

-Roulette